Christian Walk -
Is it all right to dance?
Of course it's alright to dance - before the Lord. David danced with all his
might before the Lord in 2 Samuel 5. We see in the Scripture that they were
dancing and they were singing in Scripture. In the Old Testament and in the New
Testament, they were celebrating the presence of the Lord, celebrating the
goodness of God.
It was not a dance of their flesh. It was not a dance to pick up somebody at a
club, it was not a dance where they were just out there partying in a worldly
way, but it was a dance unto the Lord.
Secondly, it's alright to dance if you're married. You have a husband, you have
a wife, you ought to be able to dance with your husband or with your wife. All
things are lawful, not all things are profitable.
So it really depends on the motive. Are you out to show off? Are you out to win
popularity or to pick up somebody? Are you out to just have a showing of your
flesh or are you dancing as an honor to the Lord or as something to bless your
wife or bless your husband. Those are reasons why dancing would be, in my
opinion, from what I see in the Scripture, something that's good and something
that's healthy, something that's a blessing.
Christian Walk -
I'm a little confused because I don't know what dancing in the spirit is. You see people that are preaching the gospel and everything and they're very spiritual but when they go to weddings, they keep dancing like any other people with any kind of music. I don't know if that's correct or allowed. I'm very confused about that.
Okay, let me help clear up the confusion. God doesn't demand that we don't
dance, but what every believer needs to have is an individual consciousness, a
consciousness of his own. The Bible says, if one man approves meat, then let him
approve meat, but don't judge the one that doesn't eat meat. So we have to be
accepting of one another.
But what you have to decide is if dancing is going to draw you closer to the
Lord? Is this going to be a good example to other people? And if it's not, don't
do it. It's not a rule, "you can't dance." But it should be directed by "Is this
going to edify me? Is this going to help me? Is this going to encourage other
people? Is this going to draw other people to the Lord?"
I don't encourage people to go out in clubs and parties and dances simple
because it's the wrong environment to invest into a healthy Christian life. It's
not a law, it's not legalism, it's the grace of God, but God instructs us to
deny ungodliness and worldly desires.
Christian Walk -
I’ve had a problem for a number of years with worrying about people talking about me. I’ve pretty much withdrawn from people. I’m pretty quiet in my workplace. I try to be kind and treat others as I want to be treated; to live by the Golden Rule. Unfortunately, I still have that paranoia; I still have that feeling of people talking about me constantly and it drains me physically.
Well, let me give you a little encouragement about that. When we’re twenty
years old, we think everybody is thinking about us. When we turn forty, we
realize, not everybody is thinking about us. When we turn sixty, we don’t care
that anybody is thinking about us. And when we turn eighty, we realize that
nobody is thinking about us. As you get older, you realize that people are not
thinking about you as much as you think they are. I want to encourage you that
what matters most is what God thinks about you.>
Paul the apostle struggled with people and trying to please people and trying to
be approved by people and worrying about what they thought of him until he
finally got free from people. It’s written about him in Acts 26:17 where God
said to him, "I’ve delivered you from the people so I can deliver you to the
people.” In other words, once he was free from the fear of people and what they
thought about him, he was now empowered to truly be a blessing in other people’s
The most selfish thing we can do in our lives is to think about how people think
of us and how people view us rather than think about how God views us. When
we’re worried and self-conscious about what other people think about us, then we
no longer are of any good to them and then we can’t bless them; we can’t serve
them or help them.
I want to encourage you to start meditating on what God thinks about you. Read
Psalm 139 and Psalm 40. That’s my assignment for you. It will really encourage
you about the way that God thinks about you. It will set you free from peoples’
thoughts toward you.
I know what you’re going through and I know how easy it is to withdraw and you
lose all your energy because of all the effort that it takes to worry about what
people think about you. You need to stop. You need to realize that they don’t
think about you as much as you think they do. And furthermore, they don’t think
about you the way you deserve to be thought about but God does think about you
the way you deserve to be thought about.
We have to accept the fact that we don’t fit into people’s drama sometimes.
People are going to try to make you the villain of their drama and they need to
be the star of their drama. They need to be their own villain; we don’t need to
be their villain. "Don’t be the mama in somebody else’s drama" as we like to say
around here. Stay out of people’s drama. Don’t engage in that. Don’t allow
yourself to put yourself under their thinking and under their view of you and
their opinion of you.
You do your best to be pleasing to God because when you stand before Him, your
boss, your employers, your employees, your friends, your family, your relatives,
your neighbors, none of those people are going to be standing there when you’re
standing before God. It’s only going to be Him. And that is eternal. That is
forever. What we do in this life will echo into eternity.
Let us be pleasing to God on this earth, in this life, so that when we stand
before Him, we can hear Him say, “Well done good and faithful servant.”
Everybody else’s opinion of you is going to pale in comparison; it’s going to
wither up and disappear on that day. So let it disappear now and focus your life
on being pleasing to God. Pursue being pleasing to God and receiving His love
and walking in His love towards other people.
I would say, “Be the person that God created you to be.” Let your thoughts
meditate on His love for you and His attitude towards you and then that attitude
of love and kindness is going to be reflected in your attitude towards other
people. No matter what they do for you or think about you, you just think about
them the way that God thinks about them and you’re going to have a great life.
Christian Walk -
I want to make sure that everything in my life is God-guided. Does belonging to a sorority conflict with Christian values?
I think most sororities conflict with Christian values. Originally, they were
built upon Christian values. Unfortunately, now they are places to party, get
drunk, pick up guys and establish social status. Those can be some of the most
unhealthy relationships and environments you can be in. >
So, yeah, there’s a major conflict there. If the sorority is a singing sorority
where you just come together and sing, that’s one thing. But that’s not usually
what happens. You need to flee youthful lusts and flee the appearance of evil.
That’s what I would encourage you to do.
I don’t know all of the sororities, but I know when I went to college,
fraternities and sororities were all focused on partying, getting drunk and
finding a guy or finding a girl, and that’s totally incompatible with a godly
Christian Walk -
I was baptized as a new Christian two years ago. How do you go from being a new Christian to moving on, what’s the next step?
You’re asking how do you grow as a Christian. There’s a number of things. First
of all, reading your Bible will give you the ability to grow. But you can’t just
jump in there and figure it all out. The Bible says we need teachers, or
Pastors, to equip us, to teach us, to empower us.>
So, the next step for anybody once they become a Christian is to get plugged
into a church, not just attend a church – that’s a start. You have to attend a
church, but then you’ve got to get plugged into that church where you’re
connected to other believers that are moving in the same direction as you and
that want to move forward with you. And in that church, they should be teaching
the Bible as the Word of God. They should be giving people an opportunity to
freely worship God and to praise Him and to express themselves to God and they
should be giving people an opportunity to find their purpose in life and use
So, those are the three things that I would say that you need to do is you need
to get plugged into a church, worship God with all your heart, and discover your
gifts and use your gifts within a body of believers, a church family, where you
can truly grow with other believers that are moving forward with God as well.
Those are the first steps I would take.
And it’s very important that you get into the right church. And there are a lot
of good ones, but there are also churches out there that aren’t necessarily
what’s best for you. So, just like with anything, you’ve got to be wise and
you’ve got to make sure that you’re getting into the right church and you go
there two or three times and see if that’s the place for you and make sure that
what they’re doing lines up with the Bible.
You’re welcomed to come visit us at our church. Come and try us out and if
that’s not good for you, we’ll help you find the church that is. But you
definitely need to be in a good, healthy church. That’s what’s going to help you
grow. And again, being in a good, healthy church is not the only way that will
help you grow, but it will help propel you into growing.